Carl writes: "I am a Christ follower from Detroit and a 2006 graduate from Liberty University. I was a young know-it-all hotshot who actually went to a doctor's office in my late teens and witnessed a father comforting his Down syndrome son. It touched me in a way that changed my life and inspired me to write a story based on my encounter."
Sometimes at the most unexpected times, something happens that will
change you forever. For Ronnie, a 17 year old junior in high school, it
happened in a waiting room at a doctor’s office. Ronnie was a popular
student who played sports, went to parties, and really only looked out
for himself. He told his mom his arm was hurting and she noticed a
strange rash, so they went to the dermatologist. While in the waiting
room, Ronnie noticed an older man trying to calm down another man who
looked to have Down syndrome. The man with Down syndrome looked to be in
his thirties and the older man his sixties. Ronnie assumed it was
father and son, and at first didn't give it much thought. The man with
Down syndrome was crying and making a scene, and most people in the room
just ignored what was going on. The older man was so kind and gentle to
his son, and told him everything would be fine. Finally, the man with
Down syndrome stopped crying and soon after that was called in to see
the doctor.
Ronnie wasn't religious and neither was his family.
He never gave much thought to God or the Bible, but for some reason this
experience at the doctor’s office was pulling on his heart. For the
rest of the day he was quiet and his family was worried. They asked him
what was wrong and he simply told them he didn't know. The love this
father showed for his handicapped son was something incredible to
Ronnie. The son with Down syndrome was causing this huge scene, and the
father only showed him love. Ronnie couldn't let this go and he
continued to show change in his everyday life.
Every two weeks
Ronnie went back to the dermatologist for treatment. A few months later
Ronnie saw the father and son again. This time Ronnie was sitting closer
and he struck up a conversation with the father. His name was Allen and
his son’s name was Shane. They talked for about ten minutes until they
both were eventually called in. Ronnie was now going to the doctor
without his mom since he turned 18, and before he left he overheard
Allen make a future appointment for Shane. He decided to schedule his
next appointment the same day and time so he could see them again.
Sure
enough, Ronnie went back and Allen and Shane were both excited to see
their new friend. Allen invited Ronnie to lunch after their appointments
and he accepted. At lunch, Allen told Ronnie about his life. How his
wife died a few years earlier and it was just Allen and Shane now.
Ronnie discovered Shane had a serious skin condition and Ronnie told
them his reason for going to the doctor wasn't that serious. After
lunch, they went on their ways and Ronnie was able to get their number.
Ronnie
was now in his senior year of high school, and it flew by. His rash
seemed to get worse in the winter, but he kept it from his family. He
stayed in touch with Allen and Shane, and went to their church every
Sunday. Shane considered Ronnie his best friend, and it was truly a
special friendship.
As the summer approached, Allen heard
Shane’s skin condition which was cancer, spread throughout his body.
Shane only had a month to live. Ronnie was also in a lot of pain and
finally told his parents his rash was getting worse. He was diagnosed
with cancer as well, and would have to go through some painful
chemotherapy.
Two months went by and Shane was still full of
life. The days he knew he was going to see his best friend were a big
reason he kept going strong. He looked forward to those times more than
anything. At the same time, Ronnie was weak. He barely had the energy
to get out of bed. Shane would go see him with Allen, and Ronnie would
try his hardest to have the strength to be upbeat and positive.
Ronnie’s
chemo unfortunately was not enough and he died in his sleep. His
classmates and family were heartbroken. At his funeral, which was at
Allen and Shane’s church, it was packed. Shane was in a lot pain at this
time, but he asked his dad if he could speak. He got up to the front of
the church and told everyone the story of Ronnie. He talked about how
much it meant to have this popular high school student befriend him. How
he never had a friend in his life, and how much Ronnie meant to him.
Many of Ronnie’s old classmates never knew Ronnie befriended this 30
year old Down syndrome man named Shane. Everyone was touched by Shane’s
speech and there wasn't a dry eye in the church.
Shane died two
days later, also in his sleep. Allen arranged the funeral, but with
little family or friends he wasn't sure who would show up. When the day
came for Shane’s funeral, the church was packed. People from Ronnie’s
funeral were so touched by Shane. Allen touched by the kindness of
everyone at the church couldn't help but smile. He used to feel like he
was all Shane had, but Ronnie changed that. The funeral was a
celebration of the life of his son. Shane and Ronnie were now gone, but
the impact their unlikely friendship had on this church and community
lasted forever.
Allen’s love for his son reminds me how God
loves his children. When we are sad or scared, he is always there for
us. Unconditional, unbelievable, perfect love.
(© 2014 Carl Coffee – All rights reserved. Written material may not be duplicated without permission.)